NYPD Hostage Negotiators On How To Persuade People: 4 New Secrets
m pretty sure I just heard a gunshot. And that means she's dead. Hold on, I guess I better back up and explain... A 911 call came in. A domestic dispute turned into a hostage situation. The perpetrator has a gun on his wife and child. ESU (Emergency Services Unit, basically, the SWAT team) arrived, as did 4 NYPD hostage negotiators. And me. We stacked up outside the door to the apartment. But things were not going well. Shouting between the husband and wife was…
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This Is The Lazy Way To Stop Procrastinating, Backed By Research
u want to stop procrastinating? What if I told there was a solution that involved fun. In fact, it lets you do the thing you love most in the world. No willpower or discipline necessary. It's backed by scientific research and even has a cool name: "temptation bundling." And oddly enough, it all starts with "The Hunger Games." Seriously... How Katniss Killed Procrastination Katherine Milkman loves audiobooks. Especially the Hunger Games series. What she didn't love was going to the gym.…
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This Is The #1 Ritual You Need To Do Every Day
u read a lot on the internet about rituals that can help you be better in the morning or leap over tall building with a single bound. Maybe some celebrity does this one or that one. Yeah, wonderful. But what’s a simple solution customized for you -- yes, you -- that can make your happy moments happier, can help you overcome grief, increase your performance at work, and even stop procrastinating? The #1 ritual to do every day is: use more rituals. Confused? Science…
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How To Get Rid Of Anger: 3 New Secrets From Neuroscience
ey're one inch from your face, boiling with rage, screaming and yelling at you. And all you want to do is scream and yell back. But you know that's not going to be good for anyone... I've talked before about how to deal with others who are angry and irrational, but how can you control those emotions in yourself? Looking at the neuroscience, there's a right way and a wrong way to do it. So let's dig into the research on how to…
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Difficult Relationships: 5 Easy Ways To Improve Them, Backed By Research
metimes your closest and most important relationships are also the most difficult. Why? Columbia business school professor Adam Galinsky and Wharton professor Maurice Schweitzer have an answer: All your relationships are both cooperative and competitive. We work together with the ones we love but we also have a bit of rivalry going on at times. It's natural, but difficult. That competitiveness can be why friends and loved ones can have such a positive and motivating influence on us. But it can also…
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Impostor Syndrome: Why You Feel Like A Fraud And How To Overcome It
u don't belong here. You're not good enough. You got lucky. They're going to realize you aren't that smart. Ever heard this voice in your head? You're far from alone. It's called "impostor syndrome." More than 70% of successful people have felt it at one point. Via The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women: Why Capable People Suffer from the Impostor Syndrome and How to Thrive in Spite of It: In a study of successful people by psychologist Gail Matthews, a…
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Power of Empathy: 3 Ways Empathy Can Improve Your Life
es it ever feel like people are all self-absorbed jerks? Like they're not listening? Only in it for themselves? You're not crazy. Empathy is declining. Via Empathy: Why It Matters, and How to Get It: A recent study at the University of Michigan revealed a dramatic decline in empathy levels among young Americans between 1980 and today, with the steepest drop being in the last ten years. The shift, say researchers, is in part due to more people living alone…
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Secrets To Success: 6 Tips From The Most Successful People
at are the secrets to success? Well, successful people work hard. But you work hard too, right? And if you keep working harder and harder you're just going to be miserable. So what's the answer? Successful people don't just work hard, they also work different. So let's see what you and I can learn from extremely successful people who achieve big things -- and hear some really cool stories in the process. And since we're talking about big accomplishments, it only makes sense that…
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