This Is How To Be More Assertive: 3 Powerful Secrets From Research
u don't want to fight. You don't want to be hassled. You don't want to disappoint them. It's easier to just nod and give them what they want. But later you feel frustrated, trapped and depressed because you're not getting what you need and you spend all your time serving others. Ever felt this way? We all have. For some of us it's compartmentalized: you're a warrior at work but a worrier at home. Or it's the reverse: you rule the…
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This Is The Fun Way To Easily Improve Your Life, Backed By Research
u don't laugh enough. Yes, humor can improve your life. Not too surprising, you say? Here's the problem: you treat humor like a nice thing that happens, oh, whenever. But scientific research is showing giggles, guffaws and jokes are far too important to be left to chance. We're gonna learn the best ways to use humor to make you happier, healthier, more successful at work and even to improve your relationships. First, let's learn the neuroscience of why we laugh. Why are funny…
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This Is How To Easily Improve Your Body Language: 4 Proven Secrets
at is your body language telling others about you? Last week I wrote about how to read other people (you can check that out here.) But being able to evaluate other people's body language just ain't real helpful if you're sending off all the wrong signals yourself. So let's get a better understanding of what you're unconsciously telling people and how to present a better you. We'll learn what body language can make you more influential, make you appear like a…
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How To Read People: 5 Secrets Backed By Research
e'd all like to learn how to read people like Sherlock Holmes. And research shows understanding things like body language is even more powerful than you might think. MIT found that the outcome of negotiations could be predicted by body language alone 87% of the time. From The Charisma Myth: How Anyone…
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How To Be Persuasive: 7 New Secrets From Hostage Negotiation
all have to have difficult conversations. And they'd be easier if you knew how to be persuasive. Whether it's dealing with family members, buying a car or negotiating a raise, persuasion is always a useful skill. But much of what you read doesn't work in tough scenarios. So I decided to call someone who has handled the most challenging scenarios imaginable -- ones where lives are on the line... Chris Voss was the FBI's lead international hostage negotiator and he's the author…
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How To Negotiate Salary: 5 Secrets Backed By Research
the history of the world, nobody has ever said, "I make too much money." And for most of us how much we make is determined during a salary negotiation. I wanted to get the inside dirt on how we can earn more. So I decided to call an expert... Adam Galinsky is the chair of the Management Division at the Columbia Business School. He teaches negotiation and is author of Friend & Foe: When to Cooperate, When to Compete, and How to Succeed at…
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How To Tell If Someone Is Lying: 5 Research-Backed Secrets
uldn't it be nice to know how to tell if someone is lying? We're going to see what the research has to say on detecting lies, avoiding deception and more. And this is the industrial strength package. We'll look at how to avoid being deceived by the pros in this arena: con artists. To get the real answers, I called an expert. Maria Konnikova is a contributing writer at The New Yorker. Her wonderful new book is The Confidence Game. Maria has insights from research on how…
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NYPD Hostage Negotiators On How To Persuade People: 4 New Secrets
m pretty sure I just heard a gunshot. And that means she's dead. Hold on, I guess I better back up and explain... A 911 call came in. A domestic dispute turned into a hostage situation. The perpetrator has a gun on his wife and child. ESU (Emergency Services Unit, basically, the SWAT team) arrived, as did 4 NYPD hostage negotiators. And me. We stacked up outside the door to the apartment. But things were not going well. Shouting between the husband and wife was…
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