very relationship has problems. And they lead to arguments -- which often don't go anywhere and just make things worse. One solution is couples therapy. It's a very good solution, especially if you want to solve things by getting divorced. From The Science of Trust: Emotional Attunement for Couples: In fact,…
e’ve all dealt with it. The subtle manipulations. Always angling to get what they want, but still looking like a little angel. Making you feel like you're the problem or like you're crazy -- but you can never quite prove it... Then you read something about how to deal with…
eing charming. Is there a more enviable quality? We'd hate charming people if we didn't love them so much. I've covered how to be sexy and cool but charming, well, that's a whole 'nother beast. And what a beautiful beast it is. We're going to pull together the research from many, many... well, far too…
elationships are important. Like, more-important-than-Vitamin-C important. Scurvy is no fun but a lack of relationships might kill you faster. From The Relationship Cure: A study of people living in Alameda County, California, for example, showed that people who had close friendships and marriages lived longer than those who didn’t. This…
motional Intelligence. Another "it" theory of the moment. The media's panacea of the week. Another great thing we all need -- that nobody seems to be able to clearly define. I swear I'm going to do a book of psychology buzzword mad libs ("My mindful grit is emotionally intelligent due…
e'd all like to have more money. (That stuff is really useful, ain't it?) Being worried about makin' the bacon can end your marriage, skyrocket your blood pressure, and even cause your brain to malfunction. From Dollars and Sense: How We Misthink Money and How to Spend Smarter: Money is…
s that difficult someone driving you up the wall? What's the best way to handle impossible people? I've broken down the research on how to handle narcissists, borderlines, psychopaths and other “cluster B” troublemakers, and the primary answer is always the same: Run. Get outta there. No contact. Personality disorders…
just wanted to let you know my first book is now a Wall bestseller! Do you want to have better relationships? Well, you should definitely take some advice from... the Stoics. I know, it sounds weird. Most people think of the Stoics as being emotionless -- not exactly good examples for how to handle relationships. But that's a myth. The ancient Stoics were big on virtue,…
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