How To Make A Relationship Last: 5 Secrets Backed By Research
ve is wonderful, love is joy, love is the greatest thing in the world... Love is also an enormous pain in the ass. Marriage is hard work. (Older people are nodding right now while young people are probably sticking their fingers in their ears and reciting their favorite lines from "The Notebook.") So how do you make love last? What myths about love are leading us astray and what do you have to do to have a loving relationship that stands the…
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This Is The Most Fun Way To Improve Every Part Of Your Life
u don’t celebrate enough. I’m not talking about just having fun for the sake of having fun. Plenty of scientific research shows that celebrating is the key to a better life. We need more high-fives, more parties, more chocolate consumption, and a lot more saying, “Wow, that’s great!” Sound too simple and cheery? Wrong. Here's why... Relationships Are you trying to fix things in your romantic relationship so it will last? Stop right now. Why? Because you have it backwards. Studies…
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How To Be Charming: 2 Secrets Backed By Research
nt to know how to be charming? Ask yourself: What do you want in any friend or partner? Someone who is happy for you, wants the best for you and delights in your successes. Right? And research agrees: Being happy for people during their good times is more important than how we deal with the bad: What really makes couples bond? How they handle the good times, not the bad. What about conversations makes people like you? How you add to their good feelings in…
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How To Make Love Last: 3 Secrets Backed By Research
e beginning of a relationship is amazing. But often, it starts to fizzle out later on... The things you used to love about them start to annoy you. They don't listen. They don't seem interested in meeting your needs. It doesn't feel reciprocal anymore. What's the problem here? We all want to know how to make love last. Aaron Beck is one of the heavyweights of psychology and he has a very interesting perspective on why things go wrong in relationships. Everybody talks…
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This Is The #1 Ritual You Need To Do Every Day
u read a lot on the internet about rituals that can help you be better in the morning or leap over tall building with a single bound. Maybe some celebrity does this one or that one. Yeah, wonderful. But what’s a simple solution customized for you -- yes, you -- that can make your happy moments happier, can help you overcome grief, increase your performance at work, and even stop procrastinating? The #1 ritual to do every day is: use more rituals. Confused? Science…
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Difficult Relationships: 5 Easy Ways To Improve Them, Backed By Research
metimes your closest and most important relationships are also the most difficult. Why? Columbia business school professor Adam Galinsky and Wharton professor Maurice Schweitzer have an answer: All your relationships are both cooperative and competitive. We work together with the ones we love but we also have a bit of rivalry going on at times. It's natural, but difficult. That competitiveness can be why friends and loved ones can have such a positive and motivating influence on us. But it can also…
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Power of Empathy: 3 Ways Empathy Can Improve Your Life
es it ever feel like people are all self-absorbed jerks? Like they're not listening? Only in it for themselves? You're not crazy. Empathy is declining. Via Empathy: Why It Matters, and How to Get It: A recent study at the University of Michigan revealed a dramatic decline in empathy levels among young Americans between 1980 and today, with the steepest drop being in the last ten years. The shift, say researchers, is in part due to more people living alone…
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Bonding Deeply With A Romantic Partner: 5 Shortcuts
w do you get to crazy love -- or get crazy love back when it's gone away? Forget the silly relationship books, let's look at the real science and get some answers. Here are 5 shortcuts to bonding deeply with a romantic partner: 1) No More Boring Date Nights No more dull dinners telling the same stories and hoping you have fun. What’s at the root of seduction? Surprise. From my interview with Robert Greene, author of the bestseller, The…
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