hey're asking you for something. And you feel like if you say no, they're going to hate you. So you're tempted to say yes, even though you don't want to. Ever been there? We all have. But if you say yes, you're going to be frustrated with yourself. And you'll…
ey yell. They threaten. You thought you left them behind when you graduated from school but turns out adulthood has no shortage of bullies. Since age 4 you've received a lot of different advice on how to deal with them. It was well-intentioned but often contradictory: "fight back" or "just give them what they want and they'll go away." Neither really fixes the problem. So what actually works? What won't make you a doormat or turn you into a bully yourself? Well, we've…
assive-aggressive people. You know the type. They never say they won’t do something. They agree but then, aw shucks, "the dog ate their homework" – and, of course, it’s not their fault. They never ask for what they want. They whine or charm or sulk… until you offer. But they didn’t…
'd all like to know how to stay calm under pressure. Sure, I could pull a bunch of research studies on it and just summarize those for you. But that always leaves the lingering question: "But does this stuff work in the real world?" So who really knows about being cool as a cucumber under the most intense pressure imaginable? I'd read that when top bomb disposal experts approach a device designed to kill them, their heart rate actually goes down. Folks, I think…
ch of being an adult is about controlling your emotions -- or even dampening them. But in the end, you want all these adult-y things you do to lead to positive emotions, right? "The good life" is all about how you feel. Yet feelings aren't very welcome in the workplace and they're not taught much in schools. So as adults we get plenty of practice in controlling emotions but little info when it comes to boosting them. How do we learn about feeling good and…
u're really good at what you do and you've been doing it a long time. You've got a hunch about this big problem you're facing... Should you trust it? All those smarty-pants books (and smarty-pants blogs, for that matter) are telling you to be rational. Use this or that fancy logical system. Or a framework developed by the really smart professor at the prestigious University of Wherever. But your Spidey-Sense is tingling. There's a disturbance in The Force. This hunch just feels right...…
know what some people are thinking: I'm never going to deal with psychopaths. This is just more sensational clickbait junk. Wrong. The experts are betting you probably encounter a psychopath every day. In fact, a lot of what you think you know about psychopaths is very wrong. Yes, psychopaths are…
u don't want to fight. You don't want to be hassled. You don't want to disappoint them. It's easier to just nod and give them what they want. But later you feel frustrated, trapped and depressed because you're not getting what you need and you spend all your time serving others. Ever felt this way? We all have. For some of us it's compartmentalized: you're a warrior at work but a worrier at home. Or it's the reverse: you rule the…
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