Category: Become A Great Leader

Be A Great Communicator

How To Read People: 5 Secrets Backed By Research

e'd all like to learn how to read people like Sherlock Holmes. And research shows understanding things like body language is even more powerful than you might think. MIT found that the outcome of negotiations could be predicted by body language alone 87% of the time. From The Charisma Myth: How Anyone…


10 minutes
Be A Great Communicator

How To Be Persuasive: 7 New Secrets From Hostage Negotiation

all have to have difficult conversations. And they'd be easier if you knew how to be persuasive. Whether it's dealing with family members, buying a car or negotiating a raise, persuasion is always a useful skill. But much of what you read doesn't work in tough scenarios. So I decided to call someone who has handled the most challenging scenarios imaginable -- ones where lives are on the line... Chris Voss was the FBI's lead international hostage negotiator and he's the author…


10 minutes
Be Happier

This Is The Most Fun Way To Improve Every Part Of Your Life

u don’t celebrate enough. I’m not talking about just having fun for the sake of having fun. Plenty of scientific research shows that celebrating is the key to a better life. We need more high-fives, more parties, more chocolate consumption, and a lot more saying, “Wow, that’s great!” Sound too simple and cheery? Wrong. Here's why...   Relationships Are you trying to fix things in your romantic relationship so it will last? Stop right now. Why? Because you have it backwards. Studies…


7 minutes
Become A Great Leader

Emotional Resilience: How To Boost It With 10 Research-Backed Secrets

er dealt with a really difficult situation? We've all had our emotional resilience tested. Sometimes it feels like you just want to give up. How do the toughest people summon the will to keep going? Steven Southwick and Dennis Charney have studied resilient people for over 20 years. They spoke with Vietnam prisoners of war, Special Forces instructors and civilians who dealt with terrible experiences like medical problems, abuse and trauma. In their book Resilience: The Science of Mastering Life's Greatest Challenges they assembled the 10…


10 minutes
Become A Great Leader

How To Be More Confident: 3 Secrets Backed By Research

nt to know how to be more confident? There's an easy answer: Don't. Yeah, it's a trick question. But we've all been led to believe that self-confidence or self-esteem is the answer to everything. It's not. In fact, research shows it's the cause of a lot of problems. We don't need more self-esteem. We need more self-compassion. Don't believe me? I understand. That's why I called an expert... Kristin Neff is a professor at the University of Texas at Austin and the…


9 minutes
Be A Great Negotiator

How To Negotiate Salary: 5 Secrets Backed By Research

the history of the world, nobody has ever said, "I make too much money." And for most of us how much we make is determined during a salary negotiation. I wanted to get the inside dirt on how we can earn more. So I decided to call an expert... Adam Galinsky is the chair of the Management Division at the Columbia Business School. He teaches negotiation and is author of Friend & Foe: When to Cooperate, When to Compete, and How to Succeed at…


8 minutes
Be A Great Communicator

How To Deal With A Narcissist: 5 Secrets Backed By Research

ou must be tired of them. They're everywhere. Narcissists. And if you think there are more of them than ever, you're right. Research shows we are experiencing a narcissism epidemic. From The Narcissism Epidemic: Living in the Age of Entitlement: In data from 37,000 college students, narcissistic personality traits rose just…


10 minutes
Be A Great Communicator

NYPD Hostage Negotiators On How To Persuade People: 4 New Secrets

m pretty sure I just heard a gunshot. And that means she's dead. Hold on, I guess I better back up and explain... A 911 call came in. A domestic dispute turned into a hostage situation. The perpetrator has a gun on his wife and child. ESU (Emergency Services Unit, basically, the SWAT team) arrived, as did 4 NYPD hostage negotiators. And me. We stacked up outside the door to the apartment. But things were not going well. Shouting between the husband and wife was…


9 minutes

Over 500,000 people have subscribed to my newsletter. Join now and get the beginning of my new book free:

I want to subscribe!