Fear Of Rejection: 2 Ways To Beat It, Backed By Research
all deal with fear of rejection. Jia Jiang did too. But he overcame it... thanks to a box of donuts. He explains how this happened in his wonderful book, Rejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection. His dream was to be an entrepreneur -- and that means a lot of rejection. So how could he beat the fear? By turning it into a game. For 100 days he made ridiculous requests of strangers, expecting to get rejected.…
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Get Better Sleep: 5 Powerful New Tips From Research
er have trouble getting to sleep? Or staying asleep? Or you get plenty of shut-eye but you're not refreshed? Everyone wants to get better sleep. But sleep trouble is incredibly common. And feeling tired the next day isn't the half of it. By not getting enough sleep you're reducing your IQ. Via Brain Rules: 12 Principles for Surviving and Thriving at Work, Home, and School: Take an A student used to scoring in the top 10 percent of virtually anything she does.…
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How To Find Happiness: 3 Secrets From Research
u've probably read a lot of stuff on the internet about how to find happiness... but you're still not jumping for joy. Some of the tips feel corny... so you don't actually do them. Others stop working after a while so you stop following through. What gives? Isn't there a solution that really works and keeps working? I'm with you. I want answers. Who has them? Sonja does. So I gave her a call. Sonja Lyubomirsky is a professor at University of California at…
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How To Conquer Fear, Backed By Research
ar is... really scary, actually. Research shows being afraid you're going to lose your job can be worse than actually losing your job: “…perceived job insecurity ranks as one of the most important factors in employees’ well-being and can be even more harmful than actual job loss with subsequent unemployment.” In a number of surveys, fear of speaking in public ranks higher than fear of death. Jerry Seinfeld interpreted this as meaning that at a funeral, more people would rather be in the…
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How To Use Time Travel To Increase Happiness
ytime you need to be happier, just do some time travel. It's that simple. I know what you're thinking: He's finally gone insane. No, I'm not crazy. And you don't need a time machine. You're just going to use your imagination. But scientific research shows this is a great way to immediately increase happiness. You can do it anywhere and it doesn’t cost anything. Research shows happiness is all about where you put your attention. And shifting your attention to the past, the future…
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4 Rituals To Keep You Happy All The Time
m Kreider got stabbed in the throat. The knife went in two millimeters from his carotid artery. He describes those two millimeters as the difference between being “flown home in the cargo hold instead of in coach.” Luckily, he made a full recovery. How does he describe the event? "It was one of the best things that ever happened to me." He was so grateful to be alive that for the next year, it was impossible for him to be unhappy. Via We Learn Nothing:…
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How To Stop Worrying
er feel like you can't turn your brain off? Worried about how to stop worrying? We all deal with this when life gets challenging. There is a way to overcome worry that doesn't involve alcohol or a straitjacket. The answer is thousands of years old -- but now science is validating those ancient ideas. You've probably even heard of it: Mindfulness. Yeah, it's all the rage now. But nobody ever seems to really explain what it is or how to do it. Let's fix that.…
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How To Improve Self-Esteem: A New Secret From Research
seems we all want to know how to improve self-esteem these days. Life can be hard. And who is usually hardest on you? Yourself. There's that negative voice in your head criticizing you. And sometimes you can't shut it up. So the answer is to boost your self-esteem, right? We've seen an explosion of this kind of thinking lately, that self-esteem is the answer to everything. But it's had some negative effects on the world too -- like an epidemic of…
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