at makes kids persist? What gives them the "grit" to keep working hard in school, to get good grades and ultimately be successful in life? A big contributor is having a "growth mindset." You may have heard about this before but many people don't understand it nearly as well as they think. To make sure you and I get it right I called Carol Dweck. She came up with the growth mindset idea. Carol is a professor at Stanford University and author of Mindset: The…
ow to be a better parent" is discussed endlessly on the internet. But what we don't see enough of is research-backed advice that can make your kids both more ethical and more successful. And I don't mean "gets good grades" successful. I mean kids who go on to make a name for themselves with breakthroughs that help improve the world for everyone. Adam Grant is the youngest tenured professor at the Wharton School at the University of Pennsylvania and author of…
nt to know how to be charming? Ask yourself: What do you want in any friend or partner? Someone who is happy for you, wants the best for you and delights in your successes. Right? And research agrees: Being happy for people during their good times is more important than how we deal with the bad: What really makes couples bond? How they handle the good times, not the bad. What about conversations makes people like you? How you add to their good feelings in…
u read a lot on the internet about rituals that can help you be better in the morning or leap over tall building with a single bound. Maybe some celebrity does this one or that one. Yeah, wonderful. But what’s a simple solution customized for you -- yes, you -- that can make your happy moments happier, can help you overcome grief, increase your performance at work, and even stop procrastinating? The #1 ritual to do every day is: use more rituals. Confused? Science…
w do you deal with out of control kids? The authors of the bestseller How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk have some great ideas that can help any parent. It's really powerful, impressive advice. But here's the odd thing: reading the book, I could have swore I had seen similar ideas before. And I had... When I was interviewing and researching FBI hostage negotiators. No, your 9-year-old Jimmy probably isn't committing serious acts of violence (except maybe against…
renting tips are everywhere but most have zero legitimate research behind them. So what does science have to say? And how can you remember what's important so you actually use it? Remember to WACC your kids. No, I'm not saying to hit your kids. "WACC" is a good acronym to help you keep in mind 4 things that come up in the research again and again: Work on yourself Autonomy Communicate Community These four things can make a big difference in whether…
lationship problems. Everybody has them. And sometimes you have them over and over and over. Most of the people giving advice don't know the research. So where are the real answers? I decided to call an expert: Dr. John Gottman. You might remember him as the researcher in Malcolm Gladwell's Blink who, after just a few minutes, could predict whether a couple would end up divorced. John is a professor emeritus at the University of Washington and co-founder of the Gottman Institute. He's published…
mily life is hectic. Most of us play it by ear and hope it works out well. Or maybe you haven’t started a family yet but when you do you want to do it right. Aren’t there some legit answers out there about what creates the happiest families? Yes, there are. To get the facts I called Bruce Feiler, author of the New York Times bestseller, The Secrets of Happy Families. When writing his book, Bruce knew there were answers already out…
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