Thank You
ain de Botton wrote: “Writing a book is like telling a joke and having to wait two years to know whether or not it was funny.” And my circus brain has spent much of the past few weeks thinking of the eleventy billion ways the book launch could go wrong and whether or not my future career entailed selling doilies on Etsy. Like some sort of digital Freudian slip, my phone has been autocorrecting “publishing” to “punishing”. (Often, the most…
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My New Book “Plays Well With Others” Is Now Available!
’s finally here! My new book Plays Well With Others: The Surprising Science Behind Why Everything You Know About Relationships Is (Mostly) Wrong is now available. Grab it at Amazon, Barnes and Noble, Books A Million, Indiebound or Bookshop. (No, you cannot borrow my copy.) And, yes, there’s an audiobook. It’s read by Roger Wayne in such dulcet tones that your ears will weep. After the massive multi-dimensional quantum dumpster fire that was 2020 and the ensuing existential obstacle course…
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This Is The Most Fun Way To Make Your Life Awesome
en you’re young, you gossip about the couples that are having sex. When you’re older, you gossip about the ones that aren’t. Keeping love alive isn’t easy. And when I was researching my new book Plays Well With Others, well, I learned a lot of very harsh truths about the current state of marriage. While I had no desire to write a “Romantic Necronomicon” that would drive readers mad (or just make them mad at me) I do cover a…
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This Is How To Win With A Narcissist: 3 Secrets From Research
u know the type. Needlessly cruel and they think they’re better than everyone else. Always one-upping people. If you've been to Timbuktu, they've been to Timbukthree. Some of them almost reach “Talented Mr. Ripley” proportions and exhibit such bad behavior it makes your eyes go wide like a silent movie actor. Calling them a “friend” requires substantial creativity but – sadly -- they’re a part of your life. (No, you can’t kill them with your mind. It doesn’t work. I’ve…
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This Is How To Make Emotionally Intelligent Friendships: 2 Secrets From Research
le Carnegie’s “How To Win Friends And Influence People” was wrong. Well, at least one of his principles was. But we’ll get to that in a second… Like you, I spent the pandemic not seeing friends nearly as often – but I was actually writing about friendship at the time. Oh, irony. The second section of my new book Plays Well With Others gives the Mythbusters treatment to the old maxim “Is a friend in need a friend indeed?” Post-pandemic, I…
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New Neuroscience Reveals 2 Secrets That Will Make You Emotionally Intelligent
big part of being emotionally intelligent is understanding what's going on in the minds of others. But doing that is really difficult. (So difficult I’ve been worried I broke my mirror neurons – and that’s why I’ve had 7 years of bad luck.) We’re not mind readers. But given the pandemic and its negative impact on our social lives, we need the facts more than ever. So I went all Hardy Boys on this one and dug for the…
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Announcing My New Book — And The Free Bonuses You’ll Receive
me to “officially” announce my new book: Plays Well With Others: The Surprising Science Behind Why Everything You Know About Relationships Is (Mostly) Wrong. (*jazz hands*) It’s coming out on May 10th – but I encourage you to preorder it now on either Amazon, Barnes and Noble, Books A Million, Indiebound or Bookshop. If you do, you get supremely cool bonus goodies you don't want to miss -- as I shall detail below. Nobody is more biased toward a book than…
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My New Book Is Coming Out. And I Need Your Help.
rprise! The guy who lives in your device writing blog posts has a new book coming out on May 10th. Almost 5 years to the day since the last one. (It’s been quite a while but I’m still faster than George R. R. Martin.) Plays Well With Others: The Surprising Science Behind Why Everything You Know About Relationships Is (Mostly) Wrong will help you scientifically improve your relationships – not just love, but all your relationships including friendship and community.…
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