First Date Conversation: 5 things research says you should talk about
rst date conversation can be awkward. What do you talk about? How can you come across well? Science has answers. 1) Talk Travel, Not Movies In a study by Richard Wiseman, less than 9% of couples that talked movies wanted a second date vs 18% of couples that talked about travel. Via Quirkology: How We Discover the Big Truths in Small Things. When talking about movies, less than 9 percent of the pairs wanted to meet up again, compared to 18…
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Science Of Sex: 4 Harsh Truths About Dating And Mating
make the best decisions, we cannot delude ourselves. I've posted many studies offering hope and inspiration but to be honest and fair, we also need to look at facts about people many like to deny. And that's where the science of sex comes in. If you wish to retain illusions that the realm of sex and relationships is pure as the driven snow or that outside of physical dimensions there are no fundamental differences between men and women, turn…
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How To Be A Good Kisser – 10 Tips From Scientific Research:
hat Does Science Say About How To Be A Good Kisser? Regular readers might be saying "What the hell is this, Cosmo Magazine?" In all fairness, how to be a good kisser is something no one really gets instruction in. Yet, it can be a huge part of one's personal life and…
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How To Make Someone Fall In Love With You
en researchers asked people to tell the stories of how they fell in love, what were the eleven most common factors? Via Falling in Love: Why We Choose the Lovers We Choose: Variables That Influence Falling in Love 1. Similarity in attitudes, background, personality traits 2. Geographic proximity 3. Desirable characteristics of personality and appearance 4. Reciprocal affection, the fact that the other likes us 5. Satisfying needs 6. Physical and emotional arousal 7. Social influences, norms, and the approval…
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How to be more attractive: 10 insights from the founders of OKCupid
s, math nerds can teach you how to be more attractive A lot of people know about the online dating site OKCupid. What many people don't know is it was built by four Harvard trained mathematicians who wanted to build a compatibility algorithm based on survey questions. So they're very focused on data. Singles have been mingling on the site for over a decade. What can all the behind the scenes number crunching tell us about how to be more…
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“Nice guys finish last.” Really? What does the research say?
ice guys finish last." Is it true? To some degree it depends on what area of life we're talking about. Let's see what the research has to say... Money Nice guys finish last here. More agreeable people make less money: ...men who measured below average on agreeableness earned about 18% more—or $9,772 more annually in their sample—than nicer guys. Ruder women, meanwhile, earned about 5% or $1,828 more than their agreeable counterparts. “Nice guys are getting the shaft,” says study co-author…
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6 ways to make someone fall in love with you:
Dim The Lights Nighttime is the right time. Via The As If Principle: The Radically New Approach to Changing Your Life: Describing his findings in an article entitled “Deviance in the Dark,” Gergen noted that when the lights were on, none of the participants purposefully touched or hugged one another and that 30 percent of them felt sexually aroused. When the group was plunged into darkness, the situation was very different. Now, almost 90 percent of them touched one another…
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Interview – Harvard/MIT Lecturer Olivia Fox Cabane teaches you how to be more charismatic
ivia Fox Cabane is the author of The Charisma Myth. She's lectured on the subject at Harvard, Stanford, Yale, MIT, Google and the United Nations. I spoke with her about how charisma works, the science behind it and how anyone can become more influential. For brevity’s sake I’m only going to post edited highlights here. Subscribers to my free weekly newsletter get access to extended interviews. Join here. ——————————————— How does charisma work? Eric: In The Charisma Myth you break down charisma into presence, power,…
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