Category: Have Great Relationships

Have A Great Family

How are teenager’s brains similar to those of drug addicts?

alvan noted that the response pattern of teen brains is essentially the same response curve of a seasoned drug addict. Their reward center cannot be stimulated by low doses—they need the big jolt to get pleasure." Via NurtureShock: Is it possible that teens are just neurologically prone to boredom? According to the work of neuroscientist Dr. Adriana Galvan at UCLA, there’s good reason to think so. Inside our brains is a reward center, involving the nucleus accumbens, which lights up…


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Have An Awesome Marriage

Here’s How Men And Women Show Love Differently, According To Research

a The Boston Globe: When men felt more in love, they were indeed more likely to initiate sex; women feeling more in love were actually less likely to initiate sex. And rather than being more affectionate than their husbands, women mainly expressed love by being less antagonistic and more accommodating. Men feeling more in love, meanwhile, were not less negative—but rather showed it by being more interested in doing things with their wives. Also: Studies show that, in general, men…


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Be A Great Communicator

Does technology make us autistic?

even Johnson suggests that by stripping away the emotional information in faces and intonation, email and text messaging might be simulating autism. Via Mind Wide Open: Your Brain and the Neuroscience of Everyday Life: As the brain science of social connection becomes more widely appreciated, our communications tools will be judged increasingly with this yardstick. Attention deficit disorder is conventionally described as the classic ailment of our multitasking age, but when you look at most electronic communication through the lens…


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Be A Great Communicator

What simple technique can make a sales pitch 20% more effective?

mic the customer's body language. Via Honest Signals: How They Shape Our World: Despite the rather obvious nature of the copycat animation, only eight of the sixty-nine subjects detected the mimicry (and those mostly because they made a strange movement and then saw the agent making the same unusual motion). The remaining students liked the mimicking agent more than the recorded agent, and rated the former as being friendlier as well as more interesting, honest, and persuasive. They also paid…


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Be A Great Communicator

4 Secrets To A Good Apology, According To Research

a Wait: The Art and Science of Delay: Aaron Lazare devotes two full chapters of On Apology and much of his subsequent research to questions of timing and delay. He finds that effective apologies typically contain four parts: 1. Acknowledge that you did it. 2. Explain what happened. 3. Express remorse. 4. Repair the damage, as much as you can. This aligns with previous research on effective apologies: Results indicated that relationships recovered significantly when offending partners used behaviors labeled…


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Be A Great Communicator

Is it true that “when you smile the whole world smiles with you”?

a manner of speaking, yes. By smiling we influence others to smile. People judge things more positively while smiling, so our own smile can set off a chain reaction causing more positive encounters. Via Choke: What the Secrets of the Brain Reveal About Getting It Right When You Have To: The researchers found a chameleon effect. When confederates rubbed their faces, so did the student, and when confederates shook their feet, the participant did the same thing. This was…


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Be Happier

The Simple Thing That Can Dramatically Improve Your Life

end more time outdoors. Nature has a myriad of incredible positive effects that have demonstrated by research: Being out in nature reduces stress. Nature walks or even looking at pictures of nature improves memory. Flowers increase romantic feelings. Nature can even make you a better person. Can't be bothered to step outside? Even a potted plant has been shown to improve attention span and increase creativity in an office environment. You might be inclined to discount this. I know that…


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Be Happier

This is the easiest route to self-improvement and a long, healthy life

's your friends. The people around you affect you far more than you believe. The Longevity Project, which studied over 1000 people from youth to death had this to say: The groups you associate with often determine the type of person you become. For people who want improved health, association with other healthy people is usually the strongest and most direct path of change. In The Start-up of You: Adapt to the Future, Invest in Yourself, and Transform Your Career,…


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