Interview – Harvard/MIT Lecturer Olivia Fox Cabane teaches you how to be more charismatic
ivia Fox Cabane is the author of The Charisma Myth. She's lectured on the subject at Harvard, Stanford, Yale, MIT, Google and the United Nations. I spoke with her about how charisma works, the science behind it and how anyone can become more influential. For brevity’s sake I’m only going to post edited highlights here. Subscribers to my free weekly newsletter get access to extended interviews. Join here. ——————————————— How does charisma work? Eric: In The Charisma Myth you break down charisma into presence, power,…
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6 ways to prevent your relationship from boring you to death:
bsp; 1) Realize a slowdown is normal You can't expect it to stay like it was during those first few torrid months. No one can sprint for miles. A downshifting is natural, so don't let some slowing down make you think there are deeper relationship problems. Via The Myths of Happiness: What Should Make You Happy, but Doesn't, What Shouldn't Make You Happy, but Does: ...the heightened passion and chemical attraction evident at the beginning of a love affair have…
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When it comes to relationships, is it better to trust your gut?
mothy Wilson, author of Redirect: The Surprising New Science of Psychological Change, has a piece in the New York Times covering research showing that feeling beats thinking when it comes to relationship predictions: It might seem that the people who thought about the specifics would be best at figuring out how they really felt, and that their satisfaction ratings would thus do the best job of predicting the outcome of their relationships. In fact, we found the reverse. It was the…
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What do great workplaces, making friends, networking, dealing with kidnappers and being happy all have in common?
l are done well by focusing on other people: Get out of your head and into theirs. Great Work Environments Bob Sutton reviewed Bill and Dave: How Hewlett and Packard Built the World’s Greatest Company and called out “Dave Packard’s 11 Simple Rules” as guidelines for building an excellent work environment. What was #1? 1. Think first of the other fellow. This is THE foundation — the first requisite — for getting along with others. And it is the one truly difficult accomplishment you must…
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Silicon Valley’s Best Networker Teaches You His Secrets
might be surprising that I know Adam Rifkin. What's not surprising is that Adam Rifkin knows me -- because Adam knows everybody. In 2011 Fortune Magazine declared him the best networker in Silicon Valley. Adam is also one of the nicest, most sincere people I've ever met. He's currently CEO of his latest startup, Pandawhale. I talked to Adam about his thoughts on networking and how to get better at it. For brevity’s sake I’m only going to post…
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Checklist: Are you doing these 5 things to be more charismatic?
arisma makes a difference. It doesn't just make us like people more, charismatic leaders bring out our best and make us do better work. Via The Charisma Myth: How Anyone Can Master the Art and Science of Personal Magnetism: Research shows that those following charismatic leaders perform better, experience their work as more meaningful, and have more trust in their leaders than those following effective but noncharismatic leaders. As Wharton School business professor Robert House notes, charismatic leaders “cause followers to…
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Who is feeling loved today?
onomists Betsey Stevenson and Justin Wolfers have an interesting piece over at Bloomberg breaking down who feels loved using Gallup data from 136 countries. Are you a middle-aged, cohabitating, female American? Then you might be feeling pretty warm and fuzzy right now: On a typical day, about 70 percent of people worldwide reported a love-filled day. In the U.S., 81 percent felt love, as did 81 percent of Canadians and 79 percent of Italians. Germany and the U.K. were less…
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7 Science-Based Tips To Make You Sexier On Valentine’s Day
Definitely stare deep in their eyes Oliver Burkeman’s Help! How to be slightly happier and get a bit more done pointed me to evidence that staring into each other's eyes really does increase attraction: In two studies, subjects induced to exchange mutual unbroken gaze for 2 min with a stranger of the opposite sex reported increased feelings of passionate love for each other. 2) Still early in the relationship? Talk about travel, not movies. Via Quirkology: How We Discover the Big…
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