What are the 10 best ways to build trust in a relationship?
at 10 things build trust in a relationship? So what do you do to build trust in a relationship? Think about it. I'll wait. You're probably not sure because it's not very conscious or deliberate. In fact, you might have trouble usefully defining "trust." For their book The Hidden Power of Social Networks: Understanding How Work Really Gets Done in Organizations, the authors surveyed three global companies in various countries to define trust. They established two different types of trust: Competence-based…
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How to make someone feel fantastic (or awful) about their entire life:
ve posted a lot about how we underestimate the power of context and how we are terrible about remembering what really makes us happy. Some people regard these ideas with skepticism. Here's a great example of how both work, and how, if you're so inclined, you can make a friend feel fantastic or an enemy feel awful about their entire life. (Big hat tip to io9.) In his bestseller Thinking, Fast and Slow, Nobel Prize winner Daniel Kahneman tells the story of…
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Parent myths: How much of what your parents told you was crap?
opardy whiz Ken Jennings' new book Because I Said So!: The Truth Behind the Myths, Tales, and Warnings Every Generation Passes Down to Its Kids dispels a lot of the parent myths we all heard when we were kids. "No swimming until an hour after eating." Verdict: FALSE Via Because I Said So!: The Truth Behind the Myths, Tales, and Warnings Every Generation Passes Down to Its Kids: As early as 1961, pediatricians were doubting this old wives’ tale, but it’s hung…
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Networking tips for shy people: How should introverts network?
e of the best networking tips for shy people might be simply "Move your desk at work." Via Achieving Success Through Social Capital: Tapping the Hidden Resources in Your Personal and Business Networks: Jeffrey Pfeffer tells a powerful story of a manager who attributes his success to his decision of where to sit. ...After carefully studying the facility layouts, the new director of engineering decided not to occupy his office in the so-called Executive Row. He noted that during the course…
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How to network: 5 methods by top experts
ey say networking is vital but nobody explains how to network How to network is the real question. But first, in case you're a doubter, some quick proof that networking is essential: Research shows networking is essential to staying employed, salary growth and job satisfaction. It makes you more likely to get a job. Via Malcolm Gladwell’s The Tipping Point: How Little Things Can Make a Big Difference: In his classic 1974 study Getting a Job, Granovetter...found that 56 percent of those he talked…
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How to be more attractive: 10 insights from the founders of OKCupid
s, math nerds can teach you how to be more attractive A lot of people know about the online dating site OKCupid. What many people don't know is it was built by four Harvard trained mathematicians who wanted to build a compatibility algorithm based on survey questions. So they're very focused on data. Singles have been mingling on the site for over a decade. What can all the behind the scenes number crunching tell us about how to be more…
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“Nice guys finish last.” Really? What does the research say?
ice guys finish last." Is it true? To some degree it depends on what area of life we're talking about. Let's see what the research has to say... Money Nice guys finish last here. More agreeable people make less money: ...men who measured below average on agreeableness earned about 18% more—or $9,772 more annually in their sample—than nicer guys. Ruder women, meanwhile, earned about 5% or $1,828 more than their agreeable counterparts. “Nice guys are getting the shaft,” says study co-author…
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6 ways to make someone fall in love with you:
Dim The Lights Nighttime is the right time. Via The As If Principle: The Radically New Approach to Changing Your Life: Describing his findings in an article entitled “Deviance in the Dark,” Gergen noted that when the lights were on, none of the participants purposefully touched or hugged one another and that 30 percent of them felt sexually aroused. When the group was plunged into darkness, the situation was very different. Now, almost 90 percent of them touched one another…
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