Science Of Sex: 4 Harsh Truths About Dating And Mating
make the best decisions, we cannot delude ourselves. I've posted many studies offering hope and inspiration but to be honest and fair, we also need to look at facts about people many like to deny. And that's where the science of sex comes in. If you wish to retain illusions that the realm of sex and relationships is pure as the driven snow or that outside of physical dimensions there are no fundamental differences between men and women, turn…
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What is important in life? Economists, insurance adjusters and old people agree.
at is important in life? Let's check with three groups who know about how to value a life: Insurance adjusters: Want some harsh truths about human nature? These guys will show you the dark side of evaluating lives when deciding how to pay out in wrongful death cases. Economists: Valuing things is their bread and butter. We can get some data-rich answers here. Old people: You're guessing what the rest of your life is worth. They've already finished the race.…
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How To Be A Good Kisser – 10 Tips From Scientific Research:
hat Does Science Say About How To Be A Good Kisser? Regular readers might be saying "What the hell is this, Cosmo Magazine?" In all fairness, how to be a good kisser is something no one really gets instruction in. Yet, it can be a huge part of one's personal life and…
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Can computers teach us what it means to be human?
ich is the machine? Computers are getting smarter and smarter. You've probably heard of the Turing test, where the object is to create a piece of software that can fool a person into thinking they're dealing with another person. Imagine IM'ing and not realizing the guy on the other side is not a guy at all. The Loebner Prize is a Turing test competition done every year to determine the software best able to fool human judges. Want to hear…
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5 secrets that will help you master conversation skills
at are the fundamentals of conversation skills? I've posted about the fundamentals of networking, and even how introverts can network but many people have written to me asking about the nitty gritty of conversation skills. What do you say when you're face to face? It's a good question that isn't often addressed. First impressions matter even more than you think. And once they’re set, they are very hard to resist. Let's break it down: 1) "Be yourself" is often bad advice. Is…
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How To Make Your Life Better By Sending Five Simple Emails
w to make your life better? All you need is email. I've covered a lot of research on how to make your life better but many people struggle with implementing changes because it seems like a major undertaking. It doesn't have to be. You can make strides in 5 fundamental areas by just sending 5 emails. HAPPINESS Every morning send a friend, family member or co-worker an email to say thanks for something. Might sound silly but it's actually…
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How To Make Someone Fall In Love With You
en researchers asked people to tell the stories of how they fell in love, what were the eleven most common factors? Via Falling in Love: Why We Choose the Lovers We Choose: Variables That Influence Falling in Love 1. Similarity in attitudes, background, personality traits 2. Geographic proximity 3. Desirable characteristics of personality and appearance 4. Reciprocal affection, the fact that the other likes us 5. Satisfying needs 6. Physical and emotional arousal 7. Social influences, norms, and the approval…
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What are the 10 best ways to build trust in a relationship?
at 10 things build trust in a relationship? So what do you do to build trust in a relationship? Think about it. I'll wait. You're probably not sure because it's not very conscious or deliberate. In fact, you might have trouble usefully defining "trust." For their book The Hidden Power of Social Networks: Understanding How Work Really Gets Done in Organizations, the authors surveyed three global companies in various countries to define trust. They established two different types of trust: Competence-based…
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