How To Flirt — Backed By Scientific Research
es Flirting Actually Work? Very much so. In fact, research says it's more effective than looking good. Signaling availability and interest trumps attractiveness. Via How to Make Someone Fall in Love With You in 90 Minutes or Less: Dr. Monica Moore, a psychologist at Webster University in St. Louis, has conducted research on the flirting techniques used in singles bars, shopping malls, and places young people go to meet each other. She concluded that it's not the most physically appealing people…
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How To Make People Like You: 6 Science-Based Conversation Hacks
you want to know how to make people like you? It's easier than you think. A while back I posted about how to master conversation skills. Here are 6 more research-backed tips: 1) Encourage people to talk about themselves It gives their brain as much pleasure as food or money: Talking about ourselves—whether in a personal conversation or through social media sites like Facebook and Twitter—triggers the same sensation of pleasure in the brain as food or money, researchers…
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First Date Conversation: 5 things research says you should talk about
rst date conversation can be awkward. What do you talk about? How can you come across well? Science has answers. 1) Talk Travel, Not Movies In a study by Richard Wiseman, less than 9% of couples that talked movies wanted a second date vs 18% of couples that talked about travel. Via Quirkology: How We Discover the Big Truths in Small Things. When talking about movies, less than 9 percent of the pairs wanted to meet up again, compared to 18…
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Science Of Sex: 4 Harsh Truths About Dating And Mating
make the best decisions, we cannot delude ourselves. I've posted many studies offering hope and inspiration but to be honest and fair, we also need to look at facts about people many like to deny. And that's where the science of sex comes in. If you wish to retain illusions that the realm of sex and relationships is pure as the driven snow or that outside of physical dimensions there are no fundamental differences between men and women, turn…
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What is important in life? Economists, insurance adjusters and old people agree.
at is important in life? Let's check with three groups who know about how to value a life: Insurance adjusters: Want some harsh truths about human nature? These guys will show you the dark side of evaluating lives when deciding how to pay out in wrongful death cases. Economists: Valuing things is their bread and butter. We can get some data-rich answers here. Old people: You're guessing what the rest of your life is worth. They've already finished the race.…
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How To Be A Good Kisser – 10 Tips From Scientific Research:
hat Does Science Say About How To Be A Good Kisser? Regular readers might be saying "What the hell is this, Cosmo Magazine?" In all fairness, how to be a good kisser is something no one really gets instruction in. Yet, it can be a huge part of one's personal life and…
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Can computers teach us what it means to be human?
ich is the machine? Computers are getting smarter and smarter. You've probably heard of the Turing test, where the object is to create a piece of software that can fool a person into thinking they're dealing with another person. Imagine IM'ing and not realizing the guy on the other side is not a guy at all. The Loebner Prize is a Turing test competition done every year to determine the software best able to fool human judges. Want to hear…
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5 secrets that will help you master conversation skills
at are the fundamentals of conversation skills? I've posted about the fundamentals of networking, and even how introverts can network but many people have written to me asking about the nitty gritty of conversation skills. What do you say when you're face to face? It's a good question that isn't often addressed. First impressions matter even more than you think. And once they’re set, they are very hard to resist. Let's break it down: 1) "Be yourself" is often bad advice. Is…
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