Fear Of Rejection: 2 Ways To Beat It, Backed By Research
all deal with fear of rejection. Jia Jiang did too. But he overcame it... thanks to a box of donuts. He explains how this happened in his wonderful book, Rejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection. His dream was to be an entrepreneur -- and that means a lot of rejection. So how could he beat the fear? By turning it into a game. For 100 days he made ridiculous requests of strangers, expecting to get rejected.…
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4 New Parenting Tips That Will Make Your Kids Awesome
renting tips are everywhere but most have zero legitimate research behind them. So what does science have to say? And how can you remember what's important so you actually use it? Remember to WACC your kids. No, I'm not saying to hit your kids. "WACC" is a good acronym to help you keep in mind 4 things that come up in the research again and again: Work on yourself Autonomy Communicate Community These four things can make a big difference in whether…
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5 Secrets To Always Making A Good First Impression
search shows that first impressions are even more important than you think: The findings indicate that getting off on the wrong foot has devastating long-term consequences. And once first impressions are set, they're very hard to change. Via David McRaney’s You Are Not So Smart: A study in 1997 by Wilkielman, Zajonc, and Shwartz created first impressions in subjects with images of smiles and frowns. The people in the study saw a photo of either a happy or a sad…
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How To Be Someone People Love To Talk To
hen do we really learn good conversation skills? Well, we don't. We're just kind of expected to pick them up... And we wonder why people aren't better communicators. How can you be that person people love to talk to? I've posted a lot of research and expert interviews on the…
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How To Make Difficult Conversations Easy
meone is screaming in your face at the top of their lungs. Or ranting angrily and you can't get a word in edgewise. Or maybe they're sobbing so hard you can barely understand what they're saying. We've all been there. These situations don't happen a lot (thank god) but we all feel helpless when they do. And because they're rare we don't ever seem to get better at handling them. Problem is, these moments are often critical because they're usually with people…
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How To Eat Healthy: 5 Easy New Tips From Research
u know you should eat healthier. But it's not easy. Temptation is all around and willpower, well, isn't. The solution is in making better choices. Psychology. But most of the answers we hear aren't legit. So I called a guy who knows the real deal: Brian Wansink. He leads food psychology research at Cornell University and the White House chose him to revise US dietary guidelines. He has a great website and is author of two smart books on the subject of tricking yourself into…
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The 4 Most Common Relationship Problems — And How To Fix Them
lationship problems. Everybody has them. And sometimes you have them over and over and over. Most of the people giving advice don't know the research. So where are the real answers? I decided to call an expert: Dr. John Gottman. You might remember him as the researcher in Malcolm Gladwell's Blink who, after just a few minutes, could predict whether a couple would end up divorced. John is a professor emeritus at the University of Washington and co-founder of the Gottman Institute. He's published…
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5 Non-Evil Ways To Get People To Do What You Want, From Dan Pink
ve posted about getting people to like you, winning arguments and FBI methods for negotiation -- but let's take it to the next level. There are ways to deal with people who are difficult but brass tacks here, folks: most of the people who cause you problems aren't going anywhere. You work with them, you live with them, heck, in many cases you love them, but the people closest to us can still cause a lot of problems. How do we…
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