How To Make Love Last: 3 Secrets Backed By Research
e beginning of a relationship is amazing. But often, it starts to fizzle out later on... The things you used to love about them start to annoy you. They don't listen. They don't seem interested in meeting your needs. It doesn't feel reciprocal anymore. What's the problem here? We all want to know how to make love last. Aaron Beck is one of the heavyweights of psychology and he has a very interesting perspective on why things go wrong in relationships. Everybody talks…
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This Is The #1 Ritual You Need To Do Every Day
u read a lot on the internet about rituals that can help you be better in the morning or leap over tall building with a single bound. Maybe some celebrity does this one or that one. Yeah, wonderful. But what’s a simple solution customized for you -- yes, you -- that can make your happy moments happier, can help you overcome grief, increase your performance at work, and even stop procrastinating? The #1 ritual to do every day is: use more rituals. Confused? Science…
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Out Of Control Kids: This Is The #1 Mistake Parents Make When Arguing With Kids
w do you deal with out of control kids? The authors of the bestseller How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk have some great ideas that can help any parent. It's really powerful, impressive advice. But here's the odd thing: reading the book, I could have swore I had seen similar ideas before. And I had... When I was interviewing and researching FBI hostage negotiators. No, your 9-year-old Jimmy probably isn't committing serious acts of violence (except maybe against…
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How To Get Rid Of Anger: 3 New Secrets From Neuroscience
ey're one inch from your face, boiling with rage, screaming and yelling at you. And all you want to do is scream and yell back. But you know that's not going to be good for anyone... I've talked before about how to deal with others who are angry and irrational, but how can you control those emotions in yourself? Looking at the neuroscience, there's a right way and a wrong way to do it. So let's dig into the research on how to…
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Difficult Relationships: 5 Easy Ways To Improve Them, Backed By Research
metimes your closest and most important relationships are also the most difficult. Why? Columbia business school professor Adam Galinsky and Wharton professor Maurice Schweitzer have an answer: All your relationships are both cooperative and competitive. We work together with the ones we love but we also have a bit of rivalry going on at times. It's natural, but difficult. That competitiveness can be why friends and loved ones can have such a positive and motivating influence on us. But it can also…
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New Neuroscience Reveals 4 Rituals That Will Make You Happy
ou get all kinds of happiness advice on the internet from people who don't know what they're talking about. Don't trust them. Actually, don't trust me either. Trust neuroscientists. They study that gray blob in your head all day and have learned a lot about what truly will make you happy.…
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Power of Empathy: 3 Ways Empathy Can Improve Your Life
es it ever feel like people are all self-absorbed jerks? Like they're not listening? Only in it for themselves? You're not crazy. Empathy is declining. Via Empathy: Why It Matters, and How to Get It: A recent study at the University of Michigan revealed a dramatic decline in empathy levels among young Americans between 1980 and today, with the steepest drop being in the last ten years. The shift, say researchers, is in part due to more people living alone…
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Bonding Deeply With A Romantic Partner: 5 Shortcuts
w do you get to crazy love -- or get crazy love back when it's gone away? Forget the silly relationship books, let's look at the real science and get some answers. Here are 5 shortcuts to bonding deeply with a romantic partner: 1) No More Boring Date Nights No more dull dinners telling the same stories and hoping you have fun. What’s at the root of seduction? Surprise. From my interview with Robert Greene, author of the bestseller, The…
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