How To Be A Better Parent: 4 Secrets Backed By Research
ow to be a better parent" is discussed endlessly on the internet. But what we don't see enough of is research-backed advice that can make your kids both more ethical and more successful. And I don't mean "gets good grades" successful. I mean kids who go on to make a name for themselves with breakthroughs that help improve the world for everyone. Adam Grant is the youngest tenured professor at the Wharton School at the University of Pennsylvania and author of…
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How To Deal With A Narcissist: 5 Secrets Backed By Research
ou must be tired of them. They're everywhere. Narcissists. And if you think there are more of them than ever, you're right. Research shows we are experiencing a narcissism epidemic. From The Narcissism Epidemic: Living in the Age of Entitlement: In data from 37,000 college students, narcissistic personality traits rose just…
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How To Be Charming: 2 Secrets Backed By Research
nt to know how to be charming? Ask yourself: What do you want in any friend or partner? Someone who is happy for you, wants the best for you and delights in your successes. Right? And research agrees: Being happy for people during their good times is more important than how we deal with the bad: What really makes couples bond? How they handle the good times, not the bad. What about conversations makes people like you? How you add to their good feelings in…
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NYPD Hostage Negotiators On How To Persuade People: 4 New Secrets
m pretty sure I just heard a gunshot. And that means she's dead. Hold on, I guess I better back up and explain... A 911 call came in. A domestic dispute turned into a hostage situation. The perpetrator has a gun on his wife and child. ESU (Emergency Services Unit, basically, the SWAT team) arrived, as did 4 NYPD hostage negotiators. And me. We stacked up outside the door to the apartment. But things were not going well. Shouting between the husband and wife was…
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How To Stop Feeling Guilty, 5 Secrets Backed By Research
ou did something bad. And now you feel terrible. But the feeling won't go away. It gnaws at you. Even worse, it makes you feel like you're a bad person. Nobody tells us how to deal with this. There certainly weren't any classes on it in high school. But one expert…
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How To Make Love Last: 3 Secrets Backed By Research
e beginning of a relationship is amazing. But often, it starts to fizzle out later on... The things you used to love about them start to annoy you. They don't listen. They don't seem interested in meeting your needs. It doesn't feel reciprocal anymore. What's the problem here? We all want to know how to make love last. Aaron Beck is one of the heavyweights of psychology and he has a very interesting perspective on why things go wrong in relationships. Everybody talks…
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This Is The #1 Ritual You Need To Do Every Day
u read a lot on the internet about rituals that can help you be better in the morning or leap over tall building with a single bound. Maybe some celebrity does this one or that one. Yeah, wonderful. But what’s a simple solution customized for you -- yes, you -- that can make your happy moments happier, can help you overcome grief, increase your performance at work, and even stop procrastinating? The #1 ritual to do every day is: use more rituals. Confused? Science…
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Out Of Control Kids: This Is The #1 Mistake Parents Make When Arguing With Kids
w do you deal with out of control kids? The authors of the bestseller How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk have some great ideas that can help any parent. It's really powerful, impressive advice. But here's the odd thing: reading the book, I could have swore I had seen similar ideas before. And I had... When I was interviewing and researching FBI hostage negotiators. No, your 9-year-old Jimmy probably isn't committing serious acts of violence (except maybe against…
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