The Lazy Way To An Awesome Life
e old maxim says that with others you should just “be yourself.” But is that really true? In researching my new book, Plays Well With Others, I went down the rabbit hole to see whether it’s accurate -- and also what we can do to be our best selves. (Never be ashamed of who you are... that's your parents' job.) In the excerpt below we’re going to learn a dead simple way to become more of the person you want to…
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This Is How To Have A Long Awesome Life
ere’s a lot of pseudoscience out there offering fake answers on how to be healthier and happier. They’re like cubic zirconia; they only look real -- and typically have a Magic 8-Ball level of scientific effectiveness. On this blog I typically attack those things with Occam’s Razor – heck, I use all of Occam’s toilet kit. (I firmly believe the only time crystals heal you is when you’re sodium deficient.) But in researching my new book, Plays Well With Others,…
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How To Be Resilient: 5 Steps To Success When Life Gets Hard
We always hear one thing about stress: it’s bad. I haven’t checked recently but I think that’s in the Constitution. Fortunately, stress is not that simple. Researchers asked 30,000 adults how much stress they felt in the past year – and whether or not they thought stress was a negative. Eight…
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This Is How To Overcome Regret: 5 Secrets From Research
There’s a study you may have heard about. Researchers showed subjects videos of Olympic athletes standing on the podium being awarded their medals. The subjects didn’t see the actual competition, and they didn’t know who got gold, silver or bronze. They just saw the athletes’ faces -- and had to evaluate…
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This Is How To Have Emotionally Intelligent Relationships: 4 Secrets From Research
We all have social situations where we consistently stumble. At certain times, or in certain contexts, often while under stress -- we blow it. And we just don’t know why. We lash out, cling, blame, or withdraw and it hurts our relationships. We try to be better… but then it happens…
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This Is The #1 Ritual You Need To Do Every Day
"Third year of the pandemic" used to be a phrase reserved for science fiction novels. Maddeningly, COVID may be going from historical “event” to “era.” I don’t blame you if your optimism has stretch marks and you’re feeling phantom pain where your hope used to be. We’re all wishing life would…
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The Lazy Way To An Awesome Life: 4 Secrets Backed By Research
u can reach a point in life where you think, “I am never going to achieve what I thought I would.” Yeah, dark, but far from uncommon. You’re not where you expected to be. There’s a sense of needing to make up for lost time -- but it seems there’s less time than ever. Life has gone from feeling like an epic unfurling adventure to a sterile bureaucratic treadmill. Endless deadening responsibilities, but there’s no longer a narrative…
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This Is The Most Surprising Way To Make Your Life Awesome
What if you could be someone else? Not a totally different person. But what if you could be a better version of you? You 2.0. We’d all like to change something about ourselves. (The phrase “character defects” exists for a reason.) Being less stressed and more organized might be nice. But…
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