5 Things You Didn’t Know About Friendship, Backed By Research
me insights about friendship from research, with links to the studies: The secret to making friendships last is staying in touch every two weeks. Yawning can tell you who your real friends are. Yes, the enemy of your enemy is your friend. There is a limit to how many real friends you can have -- in life and on Facebook. More time with friends produces the happiness equivalent of an extra $133,000 a year. For more on the science behind making…
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What quality do we most desire in other people?
ross different types of groups and relationships (work, athletic teams, family members) trustworthiness was at the top: Humans, as discriminately social creatures, make frequent judgments about others’ suitability for interdependent social relations. Which characteristics of others guide these judgments and, thus, shape patterns of human affiliation? Extant research is only minimally useful for answering this question. On the basis of a sociofunctional analysis of human sociality, the authors hypothesized that people highly value trustworthiness and (to a lesser extent) cooperativeness…
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5 Ways You Can Make A Great First Impression
me-dropping doesn't work. Flattery and mimicry do. Trying to seem smart makes you seem stupid. What you say about others says more about you. Mistrust is self-fulfilling. Expect that others will like you and they probably will. Join over 135,000 readers. Get a free weekly update via email here. Related posts: How To Make Your Life Better By Sending Five Simple Emails How To Stop Being Lazy And Get More Done – 5 Expert Tips New Harvard Research Reveals A Fun Way…
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Do you end up liking what your Facebook friends like?
. The exact opposite seems more likely to be true -- we look at our friends tastes to figure out what not to like. Via Boston Globe: One of the great things about our new, socially networked world is that it expands out tastes -- supposedly. In theory, seeing what our friends like should help us discover new music, movies, and books. In reality, it doesn't work that way: A new study from Harvard's Berkman Center for Internet and Society…
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What keeps friendships alive?
aying in touch every two weeks. Via New York Times: In search for the keys to enduring friendships, a physicist and sociologist from Notre Dame examined more than 8 million phone calls between 2 million people. Their answer, as the science news site PhysOrg admits, may not surprise you: “the leading cause of persistent relationships is reciprocity — returning a friend’s call.” Further, they said friends ’til the end tend to touch base at least once every 15 days. Join…
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Is 5-to-1 the golden ratio for both work and romantic relationships?
om Richard Conniff's interesting book, The Ape in the Corner Office: How to Make Friends, Win Fights and Work Smarter by Understanding Human Nature: It turned out that the fifteen high-performance teams averaged 5.6 positive interactions for every negative one. The nineteen low-performance teams racked up a positive/negative ratio of just .363. That is, they had about three negative interactions for every positive one... And: What's even scarier is that Losada's five-to-one ratio also appears to be essential when you…
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Does guilting people really work?
minding people of their transgressions causes them to improve their behavior: People’s desires to see themselves as moral actors can contribute to their striving for and achievement of a sense of self-completeness. The authors use self-completion theory to predict (and show) that recalling one’s own (im)moral behavior leads to compensatory rather than consistent moral action as a way of completing the moral self. In three studies, people who recalled their immoral behavior reported greater participation in moral activities (Study 1),…
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Here’s Where “Fake It Until You Make It” Works
en it comes to confidence and social situations, "fake it until you make it" can help. Appearing depressed can create a downward spiral. Avoiding eye contact can increase isolation: Via Medical News Today: ...avoiding eye contact may actually increase depression amongst already unhappy individuals, as it can lead to isolation. "Sad people avoiding eye contact will disrupt normal social fluency and may lead to them shunning certain social situations," said Dr Hills. "Although this may reduce anxiety caused by the…
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