assive-aggressive people. You know the type. They never say they won’t do something. They agree but then, aw shucks, "the dog ate their homework" – and, of course, it’s not their fault. They never ask for what they want. They whine or charm or sulk… until you offer. But they didn’t…
'd all like to know how to stay calm under pressure. Sure, I could pull a bunch of research studies on it and just summarize those for you. But that always leaves the lingering question: "But does this stuff work in the real world?" So who really knows about being cool as a cucumber under the most intense pressure imaginable? I'd read that when top bomb disposal experts approach a device designed to kill them, their heart rate actually goes down. Folks, I think…
ch of being an adult is about controlling your emotions -- or even dampening them. But in the end, you want all these adult-y things you do to lead to positive emotions, right? "The good life" is all about how you feel. Yet feelings aren't very welcome in the workplace and they're not taught much in schools. So as adults we get plenty of practice in controlling emotions but little info when it comes to boosting them. How do we learn about feeling good and…
u're really good at what you do and you've been doing it a long time. You've got a hunch about this big problem you're facing... Should you trust it? All those smarty-pants books (and smarty-pants blogs, for that matter) are telling you to be rational. Use this or that fancy logical system. Or a framework developed by the really smart professor at the prestigious University of Wherever. But your Spidey-Sense is tingling. There's a disturbance in The Force. This hunch just feels right...…
know what some people are thinking: I'm never going to deal with psychopaths. This is just more sensational clickbait junk. Wrong. The experts are betting you probably encounter a psychopath every day. In fact, a lot of what you think you know about psychopaths is very wrong. Yes, psychopaths are…
u don't want to fight. You don't want to be hassled. You don't want to disappoint them. It's easier to just nod and give them what they want. But later you feel frustrated, trapped and depressed because you're not getting what you need and you spend all your time serving others. Ever felt this way? We all have. For some of us it's compartmentalized: you're a warrior at work but a worrier at home. Or it's the reverse: you rule the…
u don't laugh enough. Yes, humor can improve your life. Not too surprising, you say? Here's the problem: you treat humor like a nice thing that happens, oh, whenever. But scientific research is showing giggles, guffaws and jokes are far too important to be left to chance. We're gonna learn the best ways to use humor to make you happier, healthier, more successful at work and even to improve your relationships. First, let's learn the neuroscience of why we laugh. Why are funny…
at is your body language telling others about you? Last week I wrote about how to read other people (you can check that out here.) But being able to evaluate other people's body language just ain't real helpful if you're sending off all the wrong signals yourself. So let's get a better understanding of what you're unconsciously telling people and how to present a better you. We'll learn what body language can make you more influential, make you appear like a…
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