Only one thing is stopping you from being happier
ny people resist being happier because it doesn't line up with the type of person they think they are. Via Pursuing the Good Life: 100 Reflections on Positive Psychology: Using other data obtained in their studies, the researchers argued that these effects occurred because people are motivated to sustain a consistent view of themselves. Those with higher self-esteem— people who like and value themselves— see happiness as a state consistent with who they are, and thus they savor their good feelings.…
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“Nice guys finish last.” Really? What does the research say?
ice guys finish last." Is it true? To some degree it depends on what area of life we're talking about. Let's see what the research has to say... Money Nice guys finish last here. More agreeable people make less money: ...men who measured below average on agreeableness earned about 18% more—or $9,772 more annually in their sample—than nicer guys. Ruder women, meanwhile, earned about 5% or $1,828 more than their agreeable counterparts. “Nice guys are getting the shaft,” says study co-author…
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Life Lessons – Cornell researcher Karl Pillemer explains the most important things older people insist you need to know
bsp; What life lessons can we learn from the people who have lived the longest? Karl Pillemer of Cornell University interviewed 1200 people age 70 to 100+ for his book “30 Lessons for Living: Tried and True Advice from the Wisest Americans” asking them: "If you look back over the course of your life, what are the most important lessons you learned that you would like to share with younger people?" I've posted about Karl's research a number of times…
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What the heck does “meaning in life” mean, anyway?
searchers at Tohoku University in Japan did a 7 year study of over 43,000 adults age 40 to 79 asking if they had ikigai (a Japanese term for meaning in life) and then tracked their health. People with ikigai were much more likely to be alive 7 years later. Via Pursuing the Good Life: 100 Reflections on Positive Psychology: Even when likely confounds were taken into account, ikigai predicted who was still alive after 7 years. Said another way, 95% of…
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What 10 key lessons can we learn about living the good life from studying older people?
ve posted about three major studies of older people that gave deep insight into what makes a good life: The Terman study (which followed over 1000 men and women from childhood into old age) The Grant study (which followed a group of young men at Harvard from college until the end of life) The Legacy Project (which interviewed almost 1500 people ages 70-100+) Here are my top ten takeaways from the research: 1) What it takes to live a long…
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What 6 secrets can the oldest couples teach us about how to have a long, happy relationship?
rl Pillemer of Cornell University interviewed nearly 1500 people age 70 to 100+ for his book “30 Lessons for Living: Tried and True Advice from the Wisest Americans.” What did they have to say about long, happy relationships? Via 30 Lessons for Living: Tried and True Advice from the Wisest Americans: Here’s the “refrigerator list” of lessons for successful married life: 1. Marry someone a lot like you. Similarity in core values and background is the key to a happy marriage.…
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Important Life Lessons: What’s The Most Important Life Lesson Older People Feel You Must Know?
rl Pillemer of Cornell University interviewed nearly 1500 people age 70 to 100+ for his book “30 Lessons for Living: Tried and True Advice from the Wisest Americans.” He asked them what life lessons they'd pass on. What piece of advice were they more adamant about than any other? More adamant about than lessons regarding marriage, children and happiness? Do not stay in a job you dislike. Via 30 Lessons for Living: Tried and True Advice from the Wisest Americans:…
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Adam Grant Teaches You The Right Way To Give And Take
am Grant is the youngest tenured and highest rated professor at the Wharton School of Business at the University of Pennsylvania. He is the author of the excellent book, Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success. I spoke with Adam about how nice guys finish last and first, what really leads to expertise and how empathy can beat objectivity, among other things. Nice Guys Finish Last – And First Adam: The big idea is that there's three fundamental styles of interaction…
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